Wellness With Her Club

Sex is emotion in motion.

Mae West

I had my first sexual encounter at quite an early age; and my body was made aware of its sensual sexuality by the time I was eight. This of course resulted into me venturing quite early, with excitement into the throngs of teenage fuelled lust and experimentation; and the best part, I loved every likkle bit of it. All this until The Great Depression of 2018 (I just had to 😂) so my views upon sex, sexuality and all topics around them suddenly went out the door, and new ones were forcefully exposed. Good times.

Now luckily, I happen to believe in realigning one’s beliefs each time something doesn’t sit well with them so I decided to rediscover and recreate a fresh perspective towards sex, especially because I consider myself to be a deeply sensual person and sex being a core in life. After going down a more spiritual path, I found it hard to engage just recklessly in sexual acts, yes even just kissing. I learnt, and are still learning about the value of self and above all, my partner, about selective association when it came to engaging with the opposite gender and or a sexual partner, regardless of gender.

I discovered that what we consider as just sex is a sacred energy exchange as it’s more than physical. It’s emotional and spiritual on all levels. Once the physical attachment is made, it’s like a code being connected from a computer to a hard drive and files start transferring, with each thrust, the potentiality of a virus or a corrupted system file being passed on either way heightens. When properly experienced, it’s a high vibrational experience of energy flow; where we give and receive.

Sexual energy is creative. The fact that through sex, a full human is made, what more is passed on? Sexual energy is healing energy. Through sex, we give a person to enter the course of your spirit. Now imagine the core of your spirit, for the ladies connects from the top of your head down through the spine and sitting at the base of it, your womb. This is the root, the core of your existence, where your spirit grows and is nourished. Now imagine letting a “toxic connection” to penetrate it. Live or “protected”, that sex leaves a residue. So would you like your root to be filled with the good, or the bad?

In this light, having sex only when you feel and accept that you truly want to is the highest freedom. To not let others use you as therapy, an escape, a distraction, a dumping site of their frustrations, failures and denial. This will only fill your core with anger, rage, disappointment and other low vibrational feelings that will taint and corrupt your spirit, and further creating or adding to your pain body. It’s not your duty or Job to process someone else’s emotions through a sex appointment. At the end of it all, where will you put their trauma?

Questions

To me, it’s never too late to realign, rewire and regroup to grow into a being you love. So how do we get to begin the realignment?

First, honesty. Be honest with yourself. Tend to the questions that have been popping up about the matter. What’s your base belief about sex? Is it a taboo? Should you be having it? Why are you having it? Do you enjoy it? How do you feel while you have sex? Why did you start having sex? There’s a whole questionnaire about this and these are important to explore so that you can evolve your sexual energy.

Second, what’s your sexual relationship with yourself? Do you get turned on when you look at yourself? Do you occasionally get horny just by yourself? You have to remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup so if your sexual cup in a sense, is empty or filled with the wrong stuff, you’re not going to be able to satiate or properly fill not only yourself, but your sexual partner as well.

Third, why are you a whore? Discover why you find yourself sleeping with multiple partners , especially if they don’t satiate you. I’m not against multiple partners because some people do find it fulfilling that way; and to each his own, but If a sexual experience is leaving you empty and hollow, why would you keep engaging?

Fourth, what’s your vibration? Your sexual vibration? We attract what we are, so if you’re on a certain level, you keep attracting certain experiences and partners that are on that level. It’s hard to attract better unless you either dupe / fake it till you make it or actually align with and establish a particular vibration. If you want high vibrational dick, your cookie has to be vibrating at the same frequency.

Fifth, honestly this could go on and on, but take some time off. Celibacy, can look different for everyone. To some it’s completely cutting out sexual relations and being asexual. Even choosing not to get married. To others, it’s just engaging in outer sexual activities but no penetration so there’s no single way to practice this particular act. But to me, I practice occasional celibacy where I completely abstain so that I can realign and reestablish a dominant vibration that sits well with me. Basically, what I’m saying is it’s your life and your body so you get to choose what you want to do.

❤️

We settle for less than we know we deserve for so many reasons, but the heart of all reasons is the absence or insufficiency of love for ourselves. Who we are. Our dreams. Passions. And everything that is within us. Relax a bit, take a deep breath and lean into who you are. Extend love to the parts of yourself you find hard to accept, because only through acceptance is when we’re truly free.

I don’t have all the answers and I’m still learning, but for now, let’s keep loving.